The Meeting of Pinke Post and Peace Garden Writer |
Meet my new friend, Katie Pinke, a fellow North Dakota wife and mother, prairie blogger and faith-seeker. Katie is my #1 reason why blogging isn’t a waste of time.
Let me explain. Recently, another writer friend who works very hard as a full-time communications professional challenged me about the time I spend blogging. She wondered whether it isn’t a waste of time and if I’m giving up other valuable work to keep up with my blogs. My response was swift and certain, but I reflected on it more later and realized my longer answer is worthy of a post — or even a series of posts on the value of social networking.
During my three years dabbling in blogging and other social media, I’ve come to realize that the top myths of social networking are held by those who, quite simply, have never given it a try. Until you step into the channel, it’s very difficult to understand the value of social networking. It’s quite possible that if you haven’t stepped into the channel, you either truly don’t need social networking, or you’re missing out on some wonderful opportunities. I’m not going to make a judgment call here because everyone who uses social networking has a slightly different life and varying motivational factors to do so (or not). I just know that for me, social networking has been much more blessing than curse.
Here’s why Katie gets the top spot. To put it plainly, Katie is real (yes, she’s as beautiful in person as she looks here, both inside and out, not to mention much taller — she was bending down for my benefit). Even though we met through a computer, she’s a living, breathing human being with a beautiful soul, tons of energy and a great outlook on life.
Without social networking, I likely never would have met Katie. We met on Twitter several months back. Turned out she was a fan of my children’s alphabet book about North Dakota, P is for Peace Garden. After that first encounter, we would bump into each other in a virtual way every once in a while, and then last week, when she was in town for a presentation, we had the chance to meet for lunch. We started and ended with a hug and made it very difficult for our poor waiter to get a word in edgewise (he tried valiantly).
Another way to say this is: It’s all about relationships. In other words, if you don’t really want to meet new people and make new connections, do not, I repeat, do not dare try social networking!
I realize not everyone wants or needs to meet more people. Maybe you’re an introvert. Maybe you have a nice collection of friends already and feel you’re circle is plenty wide. Maybe you’re just too busy to nurture new relationships. Again, we all approach the whole social-networking thing with different circumstances.
As for me, I have a wonderful group of in-real-life friends so wasn’t necessarily looking to increase those numbers. But here’s the bottom line: I’m a freelance writer. I often work in isolation. Blogging in particular allows me the chance to connect with like-minded people, as well as some who are not as like-minded. It increases my awareness of who is in the world, and brings me in closer contact to those with whom connecting might be to our mutual benefit.
As a freelance writer, I don’t have a chance to mill about the water cooler. This is my water cooler. The blogging world, along with Facebook and Twitter, are my virtual office hang-out spots, and every bit as valuable to me as those places are to those who work in an office 9-5.
I had no expectations regarding my meeting Katie other than she seemed like a lovely person from her blog and Tweets, and I always think it’s nice to reach through the computer screen and find the real person on the other side whenever possible. But by the end of our time together, Katie had shared a dream with me, and it’s one that could include someone like me. We were still talking about this dream and how we might contribute to it on our way out to the parking lot. What a thrill. And all from a meeting on Twitter!
Someday, I truly believe Katie and I are going to merge some of the strengths, skills and ideas and present something fabulous to the world, or at least to our region. She has a great idea and I’m on board just as soon as we can figure out how to implement it and still maintain control of our busy lives as modern-day mothers of (collectively) eight children.
All this to say, really, honestly, it’s not a waste of time.
Social networking starts with the click of a computer mouse, and before we know it, something has taken place — something real beyond what we ever could have imagined. Yes, there are always the negatives — the time-gobbling factor and potential for misunderstandings in mainly dealing with online communication, not to mention online predators. The key is to have your wits about you, and find the balance between virtual and in-real-life. When the real-life part enters in in a positive way, the world can open up anew.
To read more of Katie’s posts from The Plains, go to PinkePoste blog.
Q4U: When has the world of social networking surprised you, and how?
Katie says
This is fantastic and so touching to me Roxane. Thank you for sharing. I completely agree. Social media connects people with shared interests and passions online and gives us the opportunity to take the offline…in real life. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us as friends and moms.
Roxane B. Salonen says
Katie! I forgot to send you a link so I’m so happy you found it. Well, it’s completely true. I am so glad we were able to find time to make it work. Looking forward, too, to what the future may hold! ๐ I will keep the memory of our time together with me as we move forward in our busy lives and figure out how to carve out the spaces for your exciting plan. ๐
Kim says
Roxane,
This was a great post and I am so excited for you and Katie. (Plus I can’t wait to hear how your plans play out…)
I have been very surprised to discover how important and valuable the relationships I have formed with others through blogging. I am very blessed!
Thanks!
Roxane B. Salonen says
Kim, if they do pan out they may involve you too, so hang on. It might be a while before this is more solidified, but it has to do with a bunch of women from our region getting together for a very cool purpose. ๐
Lenore says
Hi Roxane: Us oldie but goodie writers used to use a pencil and paper, legal pad, to write our thoughts. Back then it was called journaling and keeping a diary. Right?
Thank God for the computer and lifelines like the computer and the telephone for connecting us with people of like minds and interests.
E-mails, blogging, tweeeting? Heck, I’m learning how to do all of it. I swear I was the last person in Helena to get an answering machine and now I don’t know how I lived without it.
Cell phones. Another form of instant communication. How important are they? So, to the people who tell you blogging is a waste of time? NADA
Lenore Puhek
Roxane B. Salonen says
Lenore, you got it. That’s what it is alright. It can take a while for us to get our feet wet, and some won’t ever feel the need, just like not everyone enjoys journaling. And that’s okay. ๐ But think of what some journals have accomplished — the journal of Anne Frank, for example. No writing is ever wasted. Even that which doesn’t become a masterpiece has brought the master closer to his or her work of art.
Mary Aalgaard says
Every day. I am inspired and ecouraged by writers and other artists every day on the ‘net. Living in a rural area, I needed to find more people like me because they don’t all live here. I wouldn’t bump into them at the coffee shop. Well, some of them, but not all the fab people from around the globe. Thanks for getting me hooked, Rox!
Roxane B. Salonen says
Mary, the blogging world wouldn’t have been the same without it. It took a while but I’m so glad you stepped into the channel and are properly hooked. ๐
Lenore says
HI Roxane:
Did you see the rockets go to the moon last night? I finished my first draft of my book, Forever Friends. I can’t stand it. I LOVE these characters and I can’t stop writing about it. But you know what, by the time I now do the 2nd and 3rd and 4th draft, it probably will be unrecognizeable. It is a Civil War to Mt. Terriroty story but oh this one is THE one.
In fact, I am thinking of a sequel. People are going to want to know, including me, what happens to these gutsy folks who left Confederate Virginia to wander about in Montana Territory.
Lenore Puhek
Roxane B. Salonen says
Lenore, I knew the earth had shifted but I couldn’t say just why. Yippeeee! This is always a moment for celebration in the life of a writer. I’m so thrilled for you! Keep us updated, please! Sending you a virtual toast, dear lady!
Lenore says
Roxane:
You need to seriously consider this blog piece for a magazine like Writer’s Digest, maybe even Psychology Today.
Lenore Puhek